億萬整容奇人 X 飛黃騰達贏家 自傳激勵人心
一本有閱讀價值的書和報告，通常要(1)有嚴謹的數據統計支持書本所提出的理論，以證明理論是經過邏輯推理，而非純個人主觀意見；或(2)作者本身有著非凡的經歷或財勢，值得我們深入研究及模仿其過人之處。今次介紹的兩本書，就屬於第二組別。
你和我也知道在逆境時必需保持意志高昂，但實在知易行難！讀一些離經叛道的奇人自傳，他們對揾錢和心理學的非一般見解，往往給你和我一些啟發。
億萬巴辣阿姐翻身記：Bouncing Back by Joan Rivers
Bouncing Back是一本自傳及自我提升書。作者Joan Rivers是美國家傳户曉的喜劇巨星、電視直銷企業家。已七十多歲的她，其沙啞聲線，多次整容的僵硬面孔，及極好笑的豪邁不文笑料，令人一見難忘。但風 光背後也有一段段失意史：丈夫自殺，投資生意失敗欠債三千多萬美金，被FOX電視炒魷。Bouncing Back講述她如何從這些毫不好笑的失望低谷走出來，一次又一次再創高峰。
飛黃騰達：You’re Hired by Bill Rancic
You're Hired作者Bill Rancic是真人騷飛黃騰達(The Apprentice)第一季的最終贏家，擊敗二十五萬應徵者成為Donald Trump Trump Organization的副總裁，年底薪超過二十五萬美金。
你和我也知道在逆境時必需保持意志高昂，但實在知易行難！讀一些離經叛道的奇人自傳，他們對揾錢和心理學的非一般見解，往往給你和我一些啟發。
飛黃騰達：You’re Hired by Bill Rancic
13 個意見:
I know who Joan Rivers is ,I watched the season of celebrity Apprentice and I like her so much (tea parties..)!but I don't remember the cute guy with big simle....So what inspiration you got ?:)
Haha I am glad I am not the only one!
Bill Rancic has a lot of street smarts and wouldn't be afraid to piss off people to get what he wants - the book also highlights some of his bootstrap ventures. Worth a look if you want to be more worldly.
Joan is just a good laugh - her signature rude jokes. She has a sensitive side which confirms my suspicion that everyone has a soft side behind the hard tough persona.
Of course you are not the only one!
我反而持相反意見,我覺得Joan比Bill Rancic更成熟,因為她multifunctional and have a sense of humour。人年輕的時候自然會追求財富,但人生最重要的東西,是什麼呢?可能到你80歲了,錢已經不重要,親情、愛情、友誼、尊重和信任才是最想得到的,而這些通通都不可以透過錢買回來。
Money is just a medium of exchange, the most important part is how to use it, not how to accumulate it. Will you accumulate tool? Because bill notes are just tools to help you get what you want faster and easier. To go through different stages in your life, all you need is being multifunctional (to play different roles in your life) and a sense of humours (cheers you up when the life is really tough).
wouldn't be afraid to piss off people to get what he wantsI don’t think it’s a good strategy, of course I understand there are some people so stubborn and immature, but when you pissed off someone (especially those immature people ) ,they will remember it and you lost their trust and respect. Perhaps you think it’s not a big deal to lost one awful person’s trust, right? But if you need something from him/her (now or future), you will gain one enemy and it will absolutely put you into an unfavorable situation if you want to be worldly.
My strategy is to trust everyone, even my competitors. I know what you think, this girl is out of mid :P.Let me explain my concept ,when I share my knowledge/idea with people, I learn it one more time by explain it to them. Usually people can’t help but will point out the mistakes; I learn second time in other way.
I came up with this strategy when I discussed with Portuguese guy, he always want to hide his idea from me and monitor my thesis progress. I share everything I know to him because I know he will point out some mistakes I didn’t see them before, and I will learn more by communicate with him. The trickiest part is, I learn smarter than him(less time, more knowledge) but didn’t piss him off, perhaps even makes him lose confidence. And I am not the one who set him up, because it’s his choice to take the opposite position, instead of by my side.
I gain knowledge, confidence and little trust (when you provide any opinions, you will have an intention to trust the listeners because talking/sharing/even criticizing make you have this psychological reaction),he didn’t gain that much than me, so he is in a lower position but he can’t complain it because he know he doesn’t trust me. All I need to do just pick up a quality competitor.
Therefore, to me, if people trust me, they are my fighting brothers, if no, they will be my competitors, I wouldn’t stab my competitors in the back, I will respect them and try the best I can to fight with them(to them = stab in the front), I assume no one want to be a winner just because of pity ,right? Of course there are some immature players will complain the game is unfair to them, as long as I get what I want I will leave the game, and I will try to be gentle as hurting someone is the last thing I want to gain from the game.
A soft side As an ordinary person, I think he/she have both soft and hard side, or feminine and masculine .Like I could think & act like a man, that’s just beuase I study man’s subject, and you will be more considerate in a love relationship after you take care you’re your housework .To me, an mature person should have both sides, so you could understand why I refuse coming back to HK, clearly it’s so hard to have friends (not even talk about bf) with both features.
I believe you are a mature person, so I hope you enjoy my letter comment :P /
humours --> should be humors....a typo put me in an embarrassing
situation,oh shit,I should proofreading the comment next time.
wow. that's a long comment! :D
Anyways, I think Joan and Bill are two different types. I think each functions well in a particular type of environment with a particular type of audience.
I also agree that a mature person embraces their two sides - light and dark, soft and hard, beauty & sorrow. The obsession for the society to accept one side and judge the other is the source of many dissatisfaction & negative emotion. It is excellent that you embrace all your talents without precluding something just because you think it's a man's subject. There's no such thing. When you embrace all sides you find wholeness.
Yes, you are right; they are different type since they are at different age, playing different role & facing different problems so that why they adopt different strategies.
To me, the most important thing is to adopt the appropriate strategies at different situations and stages; otherwise the outcome will be a disaster, vice versa.
‘There's no such thing. When you embrace all sides you find wholeness.’ Wa!! Could you teach me how to do this?? I am so impressed by this; you are always good in summarizing and giving an excellent conclusion, like your well-defined and eye catching blog titles XD.起到畫龍點晴的作用!
The obsession for the society to accept one side and judge the other is the source of many dissatisfaction & negative emotion-> it could be the culture factor, so people are restricted by invisible wall, my thesis will focus on this issue; see if internet (boundless) could break this invisible wall, and what happen to labor productivity and company’s structure. I have so many ideas but I don’t know how to connect them and visualize the pattern... :(
and sorry if my long comment 'surprise' you as I was too exciting to find someone also like the show, make sure let me know if you don't like the way how I communicate with you.
嘩,Echo你好有心機寫留言呀。
我覺得做人處事圓滑可能是重要一環,但要上更高位就要立場鮮明,不是標其立異而是自樹一格。否則與云云眾生又有何分別呢?
我其實並非強調做人要處事圓滑,而是想指出用尊重、信任的態度(當然可以有不同程度的信任和尊重)待人,收獲可能更多,過程也沒有那麼負面情緒,也不用那麼曲折計算。最後得出來的效果可能就如你所言,處事圓滑。
也許不同國家的社會架構不一樣,所以產生的文化也不一樣。但人性幾乎差不多,人人都想被尊重,被信任。付出尊重,收回的也是尊重。花的時間可能要多一點(尤其是香港),但長遠回報一定比piss off people to get what he wants要多。
人本身就是自樹一格,即使是雙胞胎也不會一模一樣,盡好本份,知道自己愛什麼,可以做什麼,再去追求,總會找到自己的位置。
高低位只是頭銜,高位得不到低位的尊重,長久也會失人心。低位不懂尊重,公司表現會即時反映出來。
我明白你和Sam在想什麼,因為香港是一個有階層觀念的城市,所以人人都想向高爬,結果忽略了找屬於自己的位置。短期是行得通,但沒有熱誠爬上去會很辛苦,當人人都違背心中所愛的位置而麻木向上爬時,怨氣就很重。當然這絕對不是香港人的錯,而是制度有問題。
我的論文題目也是想研究相關問題,只是有感而發。
階層觀念處處都有啦,何止香港。要追名奪利爭上位的是人,要求過更好生活而放棄夢想熱誠的也是人,那同人比同人爭的思想也發自人心,豈可又一句社會、制度的錯而帶過?
貧富懸殊、民不聊生、高鐵事件那些確是政府社會的問題、過失。
但一個人總可以選擇自己走的路,相對地亦要為自己的選擇錯誤作出承擔,不能在失敗後悔時怨天怨地怨制度。
不是,是制度/架構的錯。
現今很多制度是一高一低,父母要照顧子女,政府要照顧人民;丈夫要照顧妻子;學校也分精英與普通學生,為什麼不放手讓人自己走自己的路,自己為自己的決定負責任?跌倒就應該自己學會爬走來,不要未跌已有在旁一直保護,這樣永遠學不會獨立自主。
亞洲政府很怕民主,卻沒有想過交出100%信任,人民也要付出100%承擔。
我也不需要抱怨,因為我現在過著想過的生活,為自己一切決定負責,也享受一切的成果:)
我覺得你與我都在說同一件事,只不過是程度的分別:)。
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